OPTIMUS EEYORE

 

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So I happened upon this information awhile back while on imdb.com  and my childhood memories and feelings clashed together with such glee and horror that there really isn’t a word in the english language to describe it.

The voice actor who portrays Optimus Prime has been voicing this character since the original cartoon aired in 1984.  Peter Cullen has been in voice acting for ages, it seems, and most of us grew up hearing his voice again and again.  We heard him in Votron, My Little Ponies, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, G.I. Joe, The Real Ghostbusters, Duck Tales, Rainbow Brite, and many more.  

It was a regular day of watching shows with my sons when I heard this voice again… only this time is was coming out of EEYORE!  Apparently Peter Cullen has been portraying Eeyore almost as long as Optimus Prime but I had never noticed.  I admittedly didn’t watch much Transformers but the voice of Optimus Prime stays with you.  I also admit that I DID watch a lot of Winnie the Pooh growing up, but I never made the connection.  

My world was officially blown.  Here are two characters that couldn’t be more opposed to each other.  Eeyore is like Optimus’ ANTITHESIS! 

Well, it just goes to show that Peter Cullen is amazing.  He is able to instill the greatest amount of hope and strength in his characters and the greatest amount of sympathy.  Here’s to you Mr. Cullen.  Thank you for giving me a very rich childhood!

Love! ❤ 

Check out Peter Cullen’s imdb page! Here

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How Facebook Made and Broke My Year!

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Hi Everyone! Well, I have been all over social media in 2013 trying to figure what this whole mess is about.  Twitter was my vice, Tumblr was my biggest confusion, Pinterest was my greatest joy, WordPress was my biggest failure and Facebook was my biggest time leech and regret!

Let’s talk about Facebook for a minute.  I have had a love/hate relationship with it for some time now.  On the bright side, I met some of the best people in the world on Twitter and Facebook in the year 2012 and 2013, but I also experienced some of my greatest hurt as well.  I came to realize that for all the good that is out there, there is going to be those few people that make it miserable for everybody else.  There’s that one Sociopath that just can’t let you be happy.

Facebook is a breeding ground for immaturity and is run by Childish Politics.  You better line up with that bully or this will happen,  “I’m going to unfriend YOU because you wouldn’t let me abuse your family! Then I’ll  harass your family and post passive aggressive memes to gain sympathy for myself!”  The Passive Aggressive Bullying is Unchallenged and so pervasive that it makes a healthy heart sick.  You can’t even stand up for yourself against these people because they group together in clans and will lie, twist your words, slander your character and make it impossible for reason to have its victory. They are sneaky, manipulative and I’ve had enough.  ON TOP OF IT ALL, FB was also an administrative NIGHTMARE!  It was taking me forever to scroll through my newsfeed just to find that one post, from that one great friend.  Aggravating. 😦

I JUST WANT TO FIND MY FRIEND’S POST ON 15 WAYS TO COOK KALE!!!! IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK?!?!?!   LOL!

So I’m taking the excellent advice I received from my best friend, ease off of any seriousness on FB.  I’ve decided to make this social media stuff work for me for a change.  I am sick of being Facebook’s *itch! I will be spending much more time here on WordPress sharing makeup, manicures, Geek Stuff, and now more family stuff.  I will also be using Twitter which will help save time because I can post my updates once!  I’m going to use Facebook in a more professional sense to protect my family from the Busybodies and Bullies, and also, so I can enjoy it for all the inspiration and love that it has the potential to offer.

Welcome back to my blog and I hope you have a great 2014!  Let’s make this year work for us, Friends!  Circumstance can kiss our lily white ones ❤

Special Thanks to the following people who have been an inspiration to me and who have kicked me when I needed it!

-My besties, Machie, Decca, and Gelanie for their unfailing love and mercy! LOL (not their real names)

-Cher-Ron  for understanding me and helping me despite understanding me! ;P (again not real name)

-@Keeba13, @MrsDarthKramer, @spacekicker, @SizzlerKistler for your undying ability to care for others! (real Tweeps and you should follow them on Twitter)

-Rhoda Joy and Jordan Kimble Charters for being an unstoppable positive force in this world! (also follow them @RhodaJoyOFFICIAL and @JKCharters)

-And of course, my Mom, for your loving devotion! ❤

Much Love! ❤

 

Stop Passive-Aggressive Bullying

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I am driven to talk about BULLYING because it is something that has followed me my whole life and it seems most people don’t even know that someone they care about is being bullied. So, I’m pulling together information that will help any of you that feel trapped in bullying situations or relationships.   

Most childhood bullies choose a more subtle bullying lifestyle when they grow up, but they still have the emotional immaturity of a child.  They are driven by Pride and Selfish Ambition.  The world revolves around their happiness or lack there of.  The type of bullying I want to talk about is The Passive Aggressive Bully.  This bully would never risk an outright approach for fear of exposing themselves and ruining their carefully constructed image of perfection.  They are brilliant manipulators and they are experts at orchestrating circumstances and people in their favor. When exposed they lash out and deny their mistakes and they will even lie to preserve themselves.  The most difficult kind of bully is The Passive Aggressive bully.

Hidden traits:

  1. Charming
  2. Obsessed with image
  3. Distorts truth and reality
  4. Evasive
  5. Plays the victim
  6. Self-righteous
  7. Pompous
  8. Hypocritical
  9. Two-faced
  10. Rumor-monger
  11. Passive-aggressive
  12. Pretends to care

-via www.kickbully.com

This doesn’t mean that anyone who displays these behaviors or characteristics is a bully.  It doesn’t mean that, because someone has treated you poorly, you are being bullied.  This is just a list of traits that are not visible. They are subtle and are much more devastating if unavoided.  I plan on having a series of posts dedicated to this.  I will be pulling together from many different resources to bring you a full understanding of the bully, and his or her psychological state.  I plan on sharing parts of my lifestory to give you a full understanding of how this type of bullying can affect a person and arrest their life from knowing success.

Bullies are the worst kind of sociopaths and they will fight you to social death.  Usually, yours, because most targeted victims are too weak too fight back, are victims of past abuse, the costs of fighting back are too high, or they have a strong moral obligation that prevents them from doing so.

I hope to go through these characteristics one by one and give you examples of the behaviors that manifest because of them.

I highly recommend checking out the following websites if you are a victim of this kind of bullying.

Kick Bully- Where Your Fight Begins

Bullying In The Family

Bullying: The Family Connection

This Emotional Life: Adult Bullying

Life After Adult Bullying

The Verbal Abuse Site

Books Recommended by Leading Anti-Bullying Sites:

Mean Girls Grow Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid To Bees by Cheryl Dellasega PhD

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons

Victory Over Verbal Abuse: A Healing Guide to Renewing Your Spirit and Reclaiming Your Life by Patricia Evans

To Be An Anchor in the Storm: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abuse Women by Susan Brewster

Beyond The Tears: A True Survivor’s Story by Lynn C. Tolson

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher PhD

When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You by Jan Yager

Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage by Susan Forward

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin by Anne Katherine

Self Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: The Definitive Work on Self-Esteem by the Leading Pioneer in the Field Nathaniel Branden

Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life by Martin Seligman

Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man: Coping with Hidden Aggression by Scott Wetzler

The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself by Beverly Engel

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Workplace or other, it’s wrong.

http://www.kickbully.com/hidden.html

This site humorously refers to the workplace as The Mental Hospital where the patients run the show. However, it illuminates an area of BULLYING that is just as destructive as other forms.

The Passive Aggressive Bully

Please support all of us who have been brutalized by this form of bullying, by reading this article and standing up for those affected by it. It’s okay to walk away from a Passive Aggressive BULLY. Don’t encourage them by listening to them. Dont “Like” their FB posts that are Passive Aggressive. Dont “Favorite” their Passive Aggressive Tweets. Learn the difference between the genuine and ingenuine! This website helps sort out the subtleties of the Passive Aggressive Bully.

Help protect the victims, not the BULLY. If you recognize someone doing this, please step up and do what’s right. Confrontation will only cause problems and backlash, so just remove them from your life.  Help victims by supporting their defenses and boundaries.  The BULLY won’t stop their torment as long as they have people willing to tolerate them.

As far as Christians are concerned, Jesus would have never sat idly by or even encouraged this kind of BULLYING. He wouldnt and didn’t buddy-up with BULLIES. We can’t hide behind His name, call ourselves Peacemakers, and let an innocent be devastated to the point of suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts, or fatal suicide because of Passive Aggressive Bullying.

If you are this type of BULLY…you can stop. There’s help for people who want to stop bullying. Don’t let another minute go by where you are responsible for someone else’s pain.

Master Potty Jedi

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Well, the 5yo did it!  It’s official, folks.   He has now mastered the potty.  I know the last couple of posts have been a little on the more serious side and that you can probably tell my heart is hurting quite a bit.  Well, 2013 has got to be our year because after nearly 2 years of fruitless potty training, our 5 yo son is not using the potty completely.

If you want to read how the victory started… check out my last post Tootsie Roll Factory Working Again! Thanks, Homeschooling.

I couldn’t believe that on March 4th I could be putting him in underwear, but the day after the post went up we tried it.  He has been in underwear for TWO WEEKS!  3 small pee accidents for waiting too long, and 2 poop accidents for being sick (I don’t really count those, but for posterity I list them 😉 LOL!).

Before all of this happened he used to complain about the “bad feelin’s”.  He would say things like “I don’t not

Compared To Whom???

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FRIDAY FACES with Jen…

So when I was told as a teenager that I “didn’t have a face for modeling” and was told by dozens of peers that I was “so ugly” that they “wanted to cut my face off”… I think… compared to whom?

These women???? Listen ladies! We’re beautiful. God knows I don’t feel beautiful. I think I am ugly for most of the day. But I put aside that abuse, the wounds from it and my insecurities when my 5yo son tells me “Mommy. You’re beautiful. I want to stay with you forever.”

I won’t allow him to stay with me forever, but I will allow him to love me. And I’ll believe with him, that I am beautiful…even if I am only able to feel it a few times a day. It’s better than never feeling beautiful.

So when you feel down about your looks, just look at these poor girls who are being made a fool of for fashion’s sake and know that God cherishes His beautiful daughter that He fearfully and wonderfully made…YOU! ♥ Love you all!

 

-pictures found on www.marieclaire.co.uk

-disclaimer I understand this kind of fashion to some extent.  Shoot! I love Cosplay.  But these women are really being degraded and forced into an unhealthy lifestyle.  It makes me very sad for those young girls 😦

Redefining “Shark Bait”

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Something happened to me and the kids on Wednesday that I wanted to wait to post about until I wasn’t angry anymore. Well, after 48 hours of reflection I can confidently say that I have every right to be angry about this situation. Angry at myself, my kids and the woman who left my child for potential road kill.

After the gym I took the kids to the library to pick up some books that I had on hold. They were running around, the 2yo was yelling and I was really embarrassed. Especially since the librarians were correcting my kids (in order to help me, them and everyone, but still it hurts a little). I was just trying to get out of there! I managed to get them calmed down and we started to walk outside even though I hadn’t put everything in bags.

There’s about a 15 yard stretch between the door and the parking lot. So I told the 5yo to hold the 2yo hand and not let go. While i’m stuffing my stuff in a shopping bag. He lets go and the 2yo starts running toward the parking lot. I stumble and the 5yo runs after the 2yo. The 2yo thinks its a game of chase and sprints for the parking lot! All this is happening in seconds!

I see that I’m not going to make it. As I’m sprinting towards the children, wetting my pants (literally from fear), I scream for a woman who is next to her car (and in front of my kids) for help!

I’m literally screaming at the top of my lungs “Grab him! HEEEELP! Please grab him! HELP PLEASE” She looks at me in the eyes as I’m tripping and peeing and near hysterics and you know what she does … TURNS HER BACK ON ME.

I couldn’t believe it. The 5yo grabbed him one millisecond before I did… 14 INCHES from the parking lot. I am not exaggerating this situation.

I was on my knees scolding my children for disobeying and trying to control my tears, voice and bladder. Finally, I stood up, children in hand and turned around and looked at this lady dead in the face and asked, “Really? You were just going to let him run in front of a car. Really????” Then I took the Lord’s precious name in vain (not my finest hour). But I felt like she needed to know who she needed to answer to, if you get my meaning.

That woman, looked completely apathetic. Dead in the eyes. Cold in the lack of emotions in her face. She gave her head a slight shake and her shoulders a gentle shrug as if to say “Its not my problem” I have seen this look on so many faces in my life and in the media and it is always as if the person relinquishes themselves from any responsibility for themselves, their behavior or for anyone else troubles.

I am absolutely livid about this and I’m having a difficult time understanding, loving and forgiving her. She was ready to let my little baby die and as this was unfolding, I truly believed that this was the last day I was going to see him. Ive never been more scared in all my life. If God hadn’t intervened I don’t know what would have happened and I’m thankful I don’t have to live that alternate reality.

I was so shut down afterwards I actually blocked it from memory until yesterday. I told Vernon about and I apologized for not telling him sooner but I had just been trying to process it. Which, meant forgetting about it for a day.

I suppose I’m sharing this here, because I’ve been in situations like this where I’ve had to grab kids for their parents. I’ve never judged them or thought that it wasn’t my problem. Whether you like it or not, we all live on this God forsaken planet together. Most moms are there to help eachother out. If you are of the mind set to quickly to judge a mom, dad, or caregiver for their child’s behavior…to the point of apathy…you need to do some serious self reflecting and ask if you really are all that you think you’re cracked up to be. Being a parent or caregiver is insanely stressful. You are responsible for another little person’s life (sometimes more than one) and it doesn’t help if everybody keeps telling you that you’re a piece of crap at it or that you’re all alone and nobody should help you.

I don’t beat my kids. I don’t verbally abuse my kids. I don’t neglect my kids. What am I doing wrong exactly? Loving them and building them up? Staying at home, nourishing their minds and bodies? Is that wrong? Theyre kids! They are going to be kids! I love how everyone tells you to keep your kids under control but the minute you consider putting them in a back pack with a leash then youre a MONSTER! I feel like I’m drowning in the hypocracy of Previous Parents.

Letting a kid get run over by a car because “it’s not your problem” should be the new definition of “shark bait”. I don’t know when I’ll be able to love and forgive this woman. Normally I can put myself in someone elses shoes and look at things from anothers perspective. There have only been a few cases (people) that being in their shoes revealed to me that there was nothing redeaming about them or at least about the decisions they made. Truly, there was nothing that I could have imagined would drive someone to ever make the kinds of decisions they made. This woman has made the elite list of those kinds of people. It wasn’t even a list until I met her, thats how short it was.

Please pray for me that I can forgive her. Please pray that I can teach my kids to obey. Please pray that they will continue to be protected by their guardian angels. And please…please… pray that I won’t pee myself again! (That was the icing on the cake.) If you’re not religious and don’t pray, your warm thoughts and wishes are still desperately needed and appreciated.

Now where did I put my drink?????

Nailed It!

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Two Fifty Can Make A Difference!

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I am just one of the many people who have been inspired by Carrie Bland (aka @Keeba13).  Her kindness and passion for Geek culture helped me get through a very dark time in my life.  I think we can all agree that Carrie has touched us positively in one way or another.  She’s an amazing person and deserves some serious respect for all of her hard work!

Please help me raise funds for Carrie Bland to send her to San Diego Comic Con 2013!  Carrie, redefines the word ‘bland’.  She is a beautiful lover of all things Geek; full of life, fun and compassion.  Just by being herself, she has helped me change my life from a dull and ‘bland’ existence to one that is colorful, confident and creative!

Carrie is one the most amazingly talented GeekMoms.  She is respected as a top Gaming Girl and is the Community Manager for PMS Clan Halo Division.  Respect!  A Whovian, a Zombie Apocalypse lover, Supernatural addict, and did I mention she loves tacos? Carrie’s an Amazing GeekMom who is so dope, that she crafts-up Legend of Zelda Link arm cuffs for her daughter and cosplay’s some hardcore Stormtrooper action!  What lucky kids ❤

I don’t feel that this self-sacrificing woman should have to stay home when she is loved by so many!  If all of her friends, family and Twitter followers were to donate $2.50, we would definitely meet our Goal Amount.  I bet you could find two-fifty in change right now in the couch cushions! Please help us send Carrie Not-at-all-Bland to San Diego Comic Con 2013!  No one deserves it more! 😀

Let’s DO this!!!

Also… Please REBLOG this to help get the word out.  You can also request a digital poster to print out and put up at local Comic Book and Gaming Stores, coffee houses, campuses, etc…  We need to spread the word!  If interested in a digital poster, comment below and I will link it to you!

Have a great week everybody!

❤ Jen

The Potty Gremlin Sabotage

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I’m convinced that we must have a Potty Gremlin throwing its evil wrenches in the works of our Potty Training Journey.  Yesterday I posted about my frustration with how I was treated about James’ allergies but I didn’t even get to write about the POOP conversation I had with the  doctor.

Two weeks ago I was given the information of a woman whose 6yo boy experienced the similar sensory issues and the same problem my son has with potty training.  I contacted her and she told me her story via email.  I couldn’t believe it!  Not only could she relate but she had found something that was successful.  It was suggested to her that she try Biofeedback to help her son and her son has been fully bowel trained for weeks now!

I’ve used Biofeedback to help with bladder issue I sustained from a difficult pregnancy as well as a congenital issue.  I was amazed out how this changed my life!  It’s not often heard of or understood but it is the closest thing to a miracle drug you can get.  Biofeedback uses electricity to help your muscles contract.  It strengthens them and teaches your brain how to use them again. I can’t believe I havent thought of this before.  If they can do it for your bladder, why couldn’t they do it for the bowel too?!

I brought this up to the Pediatrician yesterday after the whole allergy thing went down.  I told him that after 18 months of constipation and impaction, 12 of which he’s been on Miralax daily, that I wanted to try the Biofeedback and get a referral to a Developmental Pediatrician.  Here’s where the Gremlin comes in, the Doctor didn’t buy it.  We are on the verge of finding something that could change our tender-hearted son’s life and give him some real victory and we get sidelined.  *Deep Breath* So! He ordered an X-ray because he was positive James was impacted with stool.  I agreed that he probably was, but I still insisted that the reason he is impacted is because he doesn’t know “how” to push his POOP out.

The doctor insisted that it was his Impaction causing the desensitization.  I’ve done a lot of reading and understand the facts about Impaction and it symptoms.  However, James is different and has had bowel problems from the day he was born.  The withholding is a new thing and doesn’t explain all the constipation and Impaction from before that.  I just know the cause of his problems is the lack of muscle control and I’m so tired of being given the run around.

His X-ray showed that he WAS impacted.  Surpriiiiiise! not….  I AM surprised that a simple request for a referral for Biofeedback is treated like a request for a blood-letting. *whew*  I just kept a smile on my face and said thank you and took my son for the X-ray thinking “I’ll just jump through the hoops so that I seem compliant and then they’ll give me what I want.”  Wrong again.  Instead they told me to give him Miralax… I’ve been giving him 1/2 Cap full of Miralax every day for the last 12 MONTHS. That’s not the answer to the long-term problem.  Now we have to do this for another month before we can bring it up again.

I also have to wait until December 10th 2013 in order to see a Developmental Pediatrician. Not surprised by the wait, but the hope of James being potty trained is constantly being discouraged.  We try to keep things light around here but he’s starting to be defeated by the potty.  He doesn’t even want to sit on it or talk about it. I hate the bureaucracy of the system.  “Do “A”, then do “B”, don’t forget “C D E F G” and when we run out of letters there’s an infinite amount of NUMBERS!”  Can I please just get a referral?!?!?!

All of that whining to say this:

ASK YOUR PEDIATRICIAN ABOUT BIOFEEDBACK

LOL! I certainly hope you all have better success with your doctors.  Please pray for me and James.  We are so weary from this.  I just need to be patient and calm, understanding and forgiving.  ❤

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