You’re Only As Free As You Allow Yourself To Be

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That moment that you see the person you blocked (because they ruined your life) popping up in everyone else’s posts and you remember they aren’t actually dead… they’re only dead to you.
I’m being fairly silly here but the reality is this….WOW! I’ve really cleaned up my life. No more toxic people. It’s gotten to the point that I barely think about these people at all! The above realization is actually pretty comforting because when you set healthy boundaries for you and your family, you will begin to experience joy. REAL JOY! And that peace that surpasses all understanding? Yeah, you begin to get that too.
At first, it stings a little, because no one else seems to care that these people have left a trail of bloodied bodies behind them. Even though these people do horrific damage, others still love them and care for them. They laugh with them and act like they didn’t just spend the last 12 years making someone’s life a pure unholy hell. But the point is this, life goes on. Toxic people are incapable of being loving, yet they still require love. We all deserve to be treated kindly and if I cant do it, then its good that someone else can. Truly, we all need love and compassion.
Even though we cant ask others to stop being friendly to those who hurt us, we can ask the people closest to us for the following…
-Please don’t talk about the person in front of me until I’m ready
-Please don’t engage in behavior with that person that allows them to hurt me by way of you (i.e. liking their Passive Aggressive posts, engaging in gossip, entertaining slanderous conversations)
-Please tag the person so that I don’t see those conversations (don’t just write their name in your post)
-Please respect that I’m hurting and working on healing and forgiving
The last two and half years have been the absolute happiest of my life!!! I don’t think it’s coincidence that once I cleaned out my life and my Facebook account of toxic slanderous people, that I began to experience real Peace.
Don’t be afraid to set healthy boundaries! ITS NOT YOUR JOB TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY! Dont worry about caring “for” those people either. Some of you may feel bound by the obligation of caring for that abuser because you’re the only one who will. There are 7 billion people on this planet, I think there are enough people to help that person without you having to do it. You are only as free as you allow yourself to be in this regard.
I’m still working on myself and I don’t have to be torn apart for the sake of someone else’s willful disfunction and destruction. Whether these people are friends, family, acquaintances or the check-out lady at the market…free yourself if necessary. And help protect others who are being abused by avoiding being manipulated by those who would hurt them.
Thanks for all your love and support! I’ve come a long way and still have a way to go. I’ll get there ❤

How Facebook Made and Broke My Year!

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Hi Everyone! Well, I have been all over social media in 2013 trying to figure what this whole mess is about.  Twitter was my vice, Tumblr was my biggest confusion, Pinterest was my greatest joy, WordPress was my biggest failure and Facebook was my biggest time leech and regret!

Let’s talk about Facebook for a minute.  I have had a love/hate relationship with it for some time now.  On the bright side, I met some of the best people in the world on Twitter and Facebook in the year 2012 and 2013, but I also experienced some of my greatest hurt as well.  I came to realize that for all the good that is out there, there is going to be those few people that make it miserable for everybody else.  There’s that one Sociopath that just can’t let you be happy.

Facebook is a breeding ground for immaturity and is run by Childish Politics.  You better line up with that bully or this will happen,  “I’m going to unfriend YOU because you wouldn’t let me abuse your family! Then I’ll  harass your family and post passive aggressive memes to gain sympathy for myself!”  The Passive Aggressive Bullying is Unchallenged and so pervasive that it makes a healthy heart sick.  You can’t even stand up for yourself against these people because they group together in clans and will lie, twist your words, slander your character and make it impossible for reason to have its victory. They are sneaky, manipulative and I’ve had enough.  ON TOP OF IT ALL, FB was also an administrative NIGHTMARE!  It was taking me forever to scroll through my newsfeed just to find that one post, from that one great friend.  Aggravating. 😦

I JUST WANT TO FIND MY FRIEND’S POST ON 15 WAYS TO COOK KALE!!!! IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK?!?!?!   LOL!

So I’m taking the excellent advice I received from my best friend, ease off of any seriousness on FB.  I’ve decided to make this social media stuff work for me for a change.  I am sick of being Facebook’s *itch! I will be spending much more time here on WordPress sharing makeup, manicures, Geek Stuff, and now more family stuff.  I will also be using Twitter which will help save time because I can post my updates once!  I’m going to use Facebook in a more professional sense to protect my family from the Busybodies and Bullies, and also, so I can enjoy it for all the inspiration and love that it has the potential to offer.

Welcome back to my blog and I hope you have a great 2014!  Let’s make this year work for us, Friends!  Circumstance can kiss our lily white ones ❤

Special Thanks to the following people who have been an inspiration to me and who have kicked me when I needed it!

-My besties, Machie, Decca, and Gelanie for their unfailing love and mercy! LOL (not their real names)

-Cher-Ron  for understanding me and helping me despite understanding me! ;P (again not real name)

-@Keeba13, @MrsDarthKramer, @spacekicker, @SizzlerKistler for your undying ability to care for others! (real Tweeps and you should follow them on Twitter)

-Rhoda Joy and Jordan Kimble Charters for being an unstoppable positive force in this world! (also follow them @RhodaJoyOFFICIAL and @JKCharters)

-And of course, my Mom, for your loving devotion! ❤

Much Love! ❤

 

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